"It took me five years to realize that we're only good and functional on hope. Which mean, if you're so sure and hopeful that you could succeed, then no external force and power could stop you." ~Lasisi Isaiah.
I don't know how reading this will strike you. But if you have a dream, I want you to please tie it to something out of yourself.
In my experience, 90 times out of 100 we're more likely to achieve a dream, a goal, a vision or an ambition if we could manage to tie it to something completely out of ourselves.
If you have a partner you truly (and deeply) care about. Instead of wanting to become successful for yourself, think about things you could do for them if you achieve that success.
I realized none of us can survive without an inner power (and drive). Something that will trigger that unbeatable seriousness in our hearts.
It doesn't matter if you really care about others, which I wouldn't advise you to do anyway. Just make sure you have some people you wouldn't want to see going through sh*t in life.
"You shouldn't care about everyone. You should care about a tiny group of people who are more important to you instead. Don't care just for the sake of caring." ~Lasisi Isaiah.
Sure, happiness comes and go.
Yeah, I know.
But I am certain of one thing:
Your life will change if you value something out of yourself.
For instance, I values bread and beans.
(Don't laugh yet, it was beans and bread that motivates me to become great in life).
Why?
Beans and bread is the only best food I want to eat anytime I am feeling down / feeling great about myself.
I love it. I want it. It filled my stomach. I cherished it (more than iPhone 16 - huh - just kidding 'not kidding' actually).
(Smiling).
I want you to understand that even something as nonsensical as eating bread and beans can be something that motivates someone (somewhere) to become great.
And yeah, couple that with the fact that I wouldn't take my stomach satisfaction for granted.
(A.k.a FFO - for food only).
Yeah!
Without food I realized I am nothing.
(Read that again).
Food is the only number one thing (outside of myself) I wouldn't trade for anything or with anyone.
I don't care who you are to me, if you're going to disturb my life for eating what I want then we wouldn't last long no matter how sweet or sexy / valuable you are to me.
"I wouldn't be where I am today if I'm not eating to satisfy my stomach. Believe me I value food more than anything else. F*ck future, if I didn't eat to satisfy myself how would I function in that future?" ~Lasisi Isaiah.
So, once you figure out exactly what drives you (yeah, even if it happens to be bread and beans) then you can move to the purpose of this article.
Find a mentor, a coach, a counselor (or whomever else people drag their asses to when they wanted to seek an opinion or an advice)
We all need someone to look up to (even if that person is slightly stupid and 'huh' brainless).
We need some quirks we can admire. Something that will twist us in a direction.
(Isn't that why we all go online watching some time-consuming not-so-useless videos and still thinks our days is super cool?)
We really need a voice.
And yes, not necessarily our own voices.
We need a voice coming from an outsider that we could relate and emulate from because it seem the person is thinking partially (if not wholly) in a way that we validate and patterns that we secretly want and desire.
We want someone to punch a hole in the sky even though we are hundred percent sure it's not possible.
We want a mentor. We want a coach.
"Think about it. Some of the reason you do something that you're doing is because you've already seen someone doing it. And yes, that should tell you about why you should be a coach for somebody or hire a coach for yourself." ~Lasisi Isaiah.
But just because you want a coach doesn't mean you should be stupid
If you can't afford it, and the coach you want to hire is an inconsiderate ass-face - ditch him/her.
No point putting yourself in a crazy dilemma just because you couldn't afford a prize your damn mentor/coach/counselor/whatever-else-people-call-them tag their sh*t.
(Counterintuitive from an asshole telling you to hire a coach right? Exactly! Don't just put yourself in sh*t because of an ass-face mentor).
But if the mentor/coach/counselor/whatever-else-people-call-them actually worth it. And you're sure as hell you're going to be okay spending that money (and time) for them (and with them) then never hold back.
Yes! Go for it.
"Make sure you hire that coach. Yes! Go to that seminar, follow your curiosity. But when everything is all said and done please always make sure you're not going insane. In other words... don't turn yourself to a living dork just because you wanted to learn more." ~Lasisi Isaiah.
So after you're sure you're going to be safe.
And you're sure that the price you're going to pay (monetary value and or whatever else value) would not affect you and your family (assuming you're married already) then go for it.
Once again please don't hire any coaches if you're not that sure about it or about your capacity. You can go out there and learn the free stuff first.
(Yeah! Free stuff can help you too).
So that is it for today.
My own plan (100% personal) is to hire a coach in 2029, that is the only best time I think I could afford it.
And no, I won't do it in 2029 if I realized I couldn't afford it.
"But I think I will be able to by then."
And "Nigel Thomas" is the person I wanted to hire. I've been reading his stuff through his weekly Newsletter.
(You can Google search him. Just type Nigel Thomas David to Goliath. You'd be happy that you did).
See y'all next time.
Lasisi.
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